Why do negative emotions result in complete irrationality in humans? Why? The very essence of the emotions we try to avoid make it 10 times harder to “get over” them the way we should. It’s like a built-in survival tactic. Anger and violence will beget anger and violence, thereby ensuring the perpetual existence of both. Fears learn to multiply in peoples’ brains like a fast-replicating virus. Jealousy clouds minds so that no good reason can penetrate, and the mind cannot shake the negative feeling.
Why do our brains work this way? Or if yours does not, can you explain how?
I know there are various ways to try and soothe away negative emotions. Million-dollar seminars are built around this goal, not to mention billion-dollar drugs. Books on meditation, prayer, and other “secrets” are gobbled up by a public looking for the perfect panacea to their brainy ills.
And yet, there we are – despite our best efforts and intentions – splayed before our fickle emotions like a voodoo doll about to be stabbed. Or should I say – there I am? As often as I steel myself, pep-talk myself, berate myself, or cajole myself to get the better of my negative emotions, the smallest trigger will wipe away all rationality with one sweep. Or maybe just one trigger.
And I forget. Forget so many of the positives.
He laughs around me also. He looks forward to being with me also. He’ll leave work on time for me also (ok, maybe). And I’m the one he has chosen to spend all the rest of his days with. Hello? What else can compare to that? How can I know these things, but forget? How can my good, smart, commonsensical brain take a complete holiday and vacate my skull and abandon me like a worn-out pair of smelly gym socks?
And yet, how can he know why, and forget? Or misremember? My negative thoughts chase away rationality. His imperviousness to negative thoughts chases away my past words. Patterns persist. The self-replication cycle completes. Who in the world could engineer such an ingenious system? Truly? Who?
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